Eight Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way

re: Eight Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way

heebiejeebies — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 06:12:32 GMT

This is pure froth and bubble. It’s touting the same kind of advice as all self-help agendas: once you believe you are OK, you will become OK. I don’t disagree with the advice provided but anyone who thinks this is a solution for anyone suffering from anything but the absolute mildest depression can think again. Same for books such as The Feeling Good Handbook – it's Dr. Phil style common sense for people who are feeling a little down and aren’t intelligent or knowledgeable enough to snap themselves out of it. For anyone whose depression is caused by real problems, this kind of bosh only causes more discouragement when it doesn’t work.

re: Eight Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way

Denisv — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 16:57:53 GMT

How do you deal with the fact that Christian teachings focus on service to others as opposed to attaining what's best for you? One incident springs to mind. I attended Catholic schools most of my (student) life. On one particular occasion, after reading from the poem, Invictus, the last stanza which is as follows:

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.

When the I and many others in the class reacted to the sheer life asserting power of this prose, the teacher, who was a nun, said, "Do you know why we're here, on this Earth?". I answered, "To be as happy as possible, of course!". She stated, "No, we are here to sacrifice our happiness to others!". How can anyone attain guilt free fullfillment and happiness with this kind of legacy?

re: Eight Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way

Lucas_Chohany — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 16:46:07 GMT

Number 3 seems out of place with the wisdom of the other comments, especially number 8. Rather than ignoring our emotions we should strive to accept them fully without judgement and mental commentary. This way there is no addition to our past pain, only dissolution.

re: Eight Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way

moises — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 14:49:44 GMT

Dr. Mercola references the superb book by David Allen, called Getting Things Done, in this article. I first learned of this book from Dr. Mercola and it has had an extraordinary impact on my life for the better.

Points 3 and 5 in this article strike me as redundant. The point is to do even when you do not feel like doing. The best slogan that I know that summarizes this point is, "Action precedes motivation." I used to believe that I had to feel like doing something before I would start to do it. But accomplishments are achieved by those who start even when they don't feel like starting. Keep on starting, even when you don't feel like it and you will get a lot more done and be much more satisfied. That's what happened with me.

I read the slogan "Action precedes motivation" in another extraordinary book called The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns, MD. Using the methods of David Allen and David Burns is truly a formula for successful self-improvement.

Point 4 is one that I rarely see stressed and I believe is vital. Huge and significant changes occur through the accumulation of small differences over time. Ocean floors become mountaintops in geological time. Rivers erode plains to become vast canyons. Within our own lives, the gradual accumulation of small changes can result in extraordinary growth if we are disciplined enough and knowledgeable enough to preserve our beneficial habits and build on them when we can.

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re: 8 Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way

mmc88121 — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 04:08:56 GMT

Excellent suggestions.

Mary

re: 8 Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way

Russ Bianchi — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 20:09:34 GMT

8 suggestions that have worked most evert time they have been tried.

re: 8 Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way

Jane Akre — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 16:25:56 GMT

It's always good to hear common sense reinforced. Thank You!!!