Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

Winston1984 — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:12:07 GMT

This research reminds me of that old adage about happiness between husband and wife, everybody is happy by women getting what they want by letting men think they are the bosses. What this finding really shows is old news. In the relationship, women are the ones who tend to test the relationship while men tend to act as deciders. This does not show that men are being emasculated or that women are overly dominant, now; even if that might be true. The challenges of modern marriage are due to being symptomatic of modern life; basically unfulfillment due to an overproductive economy & lack in religious belief in marriage as something that should last in spite of real problems. Relationships become overloaded as an outlet to the stress of the rat race, but there is too little religious discipline. If there was enough faith in marriage, then people would know to look elsewhere for a solution to their personal crises.

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

vanyak — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 06:05:47 GMT

For a real perspective on the male/female relationship, go to www.savethemales.ca and read, read, read. It's an eye-opening body of work by a very savvy man.

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

vanyak — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 06:03:06 GMT

HollyM, This role reversal isn't by accident. I am a 56 year old man who's never been married, never fathered kids, and it probably won't happen. I have been "on the sidelines" of marriage, watching this new sexual game being played out. The Feminist movement is and always was bogus. It's meant to falsely empower women and create militant "victims" who blame men for all their woes in life. At the same time, it's made men apologetic for being men, and turning us into appeasers for our militant women. If you would like to get some answers to this puzzle, and to prove that you are not crazy, go to www.savethemales.ca and prepared to be enlightened. Henry Makow has written about this for years. Tell all your friends about it, and let's get this damage undone....FAST! Good luck!

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

HollyM — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 18:35:59 GMT

Just from personal experience and what my girlfriends share with me (in our 30s), men no longer act like "men". I'm sorry, but it seems like all the men out there want women to act like their 2nd or surrogate mom! It's crazy! It's one main reason the relationship I'm in right now that has lasted over 2 years, is ending, after having to baby a man 10 years older than me and who can't get his life together! What the heck have the mothers of these men done to their boys??? So we have society emasculating the men, and hypersexualizing the women. I am sure glad I only have probably another 40 years on this planet...

Holly

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

Maj_203 — Mon, 09 Jul 2007 19:48:32 GMT

The article said: According to the researchers, "...Women were communicating more powerful messages and men were responding to those messages by agreeing or giving in."

Is it not fairly well established that - in general - women communicate far more effectively/often than men do? If that's the case, wouldn't that have an effect on the perceived dominance in this experiment?

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

Islander — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 00:56:29 GMT

Women have power in the home (and not just in the U.S.) largely by default. I would love to met a decisive man, but they are apparently all married to somebody ese!

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

Phantom O Banjo — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 21:17:41 GMT

I would absolutely say women run things until it goes down in flames. Then its the man who runs things! LOL

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

goldeneagle — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 21:17:10 GMT

This article shows the picture quite clearly, If mom ain't happy, nobody's happy. It is a proven fact that women have more left brain/right brain connections; meaning women can multi-task better than men because of this biological truth. Women can better organize, plan and comfort, making women the center control of the home enviroment, or where ever they are placed in command.

I have been told by military training personel. That women are better soldiers, learn faster and quick to take instructions. It doesn't mean we put women on the front line to fight the battles. What would be more logical, is train them in battle tactics, put them in the think tanks and fight the wars on paper before sending troops into war.

Women are also better mediators, just ask children. Fathers are quicker to use physical punishments without talking things out. As where mothers listen to the cries, moaning and whining far better and then acting on those issues.

Also, mothers go through the pain and agony of carrying a child for nine months and taking care of the helpless bundle, more often than not, until the child is toilet trained.

Women do not like killing, they like to nurture. Women do not like abuse or demoralization; they like to build up and support. When momma is happy, everybody can be happy, because mommas give a lot of themselves to make everybody happy.

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

mmc88121 — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 20:33:16 GMT

What is so unusual about this. Most women are in charge of what goes on in the household. Men are in charge up to the time they enter the door. I have been married almost 25 years. My husband knows not to make any decision about the house without consulting me. That sounds egotistical, but it works better that way.

Mary

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

A.M.E. — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 20:27:41 GMT

My marriage is a partnership with equality held by each of us. In some areas my love has abilities above and beyond mine and I have some in others. We use these to our advantage to work every situation. Not one of us is ever in charge...we both are. And we have to agree on a course of action before either of us proceed from a "situation". We do not believe in compromise. If we do not see eye to eye we pray together and get ourselves "right" and this always solves the problem (not always right away...mind you). It is amazing what you can accomplish when you actually work as a team, do not try to dominate the other and desire to do God's will above and beyond all else.

re: Who's the Boss at Home? Men or Women?

Russ Bianchi — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 19:32:13 GMT

I will have to ask my bride of 16 years (aka "The Supreme Command"), if she concurs with these findings.... ;-)

As I tell my friends: "I go to work to REST".

Uncle Russ